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Dear Shenani-Girl,

How do I stop creepy guys from coming up to me in comic shops and asking me out for coffee or poutine?

Signed, Every Hot Girl Who’s Ever Been in a Comic Shop

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Dear Every Hot Girl Who’s Ever Been in a Comic Shop,

Being a woman who’s into comics can sometimes be a little bit of a pain in the ass. It’s important to find a local comic book shop that is accepting of all people who want to read comics and supports a community of readers that will help you out if you should find yourself gaining unwanted attention.

Unfortunately sometimes that isn’t always possible and suggesting that you wear a bag on your head (like the one shown to the right) is not particularly good advice, especially since some men are more than happy to stare at other appendages.

My friend is always telling me to put up barriers to ward off some of the more unwanted attention, but there are some people who just don’t pick up on those signals. And when you want to go comic book shopping, you want to just enjoy yourself browsing and finding things to read.

If the guy who asks you for coffee and/or poutine is creepy, the obvious answer is to just say no. You can’t really do much to stop them from asking you out, so the best thing you can do is just make sure you ward him off as best as you can. If you feel uncomfortable, don’t leave the shop and wander into dark alleys… find or phone a friend, tell one of the store employees (chances are pretty good that they’ll be familiar with the creeper and will be able to talk to them for you) or pull out your Invisibility Cloak from your bag and put that shit on.


 

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Stephanie is [obviously] a comic book fan, but she also considers herself an avid gamer, movie watcher, lover of music, board games fan (although she doesn’t find nearly enough time for them…) and being snarky. Oh, and Twitter. Twitter’s a hobby, right? Stephanie is a purveyor of too many projects and outside of Talking Comics she’s done work for JoBlo.com, Agents of Geek, Word of the Nerd, C&G Magazine, Dork Shelf, Misfortune Cookie (her personal blog for words and pictures) and more. She also runs Toronto Geek Trivia in her home city and can be found helping out at other “geek” community things around there.

7 Responses

  1. dusk1020

    I agree with the “tell an employee” suggestion. Sometimes the shops may know their customers but may not know their conduct in the store. If I ever overhear anything in my store that makes me or that would make any of the customers uncomfortable I say something right away.

    • Stephanie Cooke

      Exactly! A lot of these people are regulars, so it’s much easier for them to be told to stop by a familiar face. You don’t want to leave the store and have to constantly look over your shoulder to make sure you aren’t being followed or anything. Best to just talk to someone while you’re in the store.

  2. Christian

    This seems a little bit of stereotyping, not that there are not creepy folks, but just because someone asks you for coffee does not mean that they have creepy motives. Sometimes they might just want coffee. That is not to say that if you get a creepy vibe not to listen to it, do listen to it.

    Just be careful about painting people with the same brush stroke.

    • Stephanie Cooke

      It’s not stereotyping… truthfully, meeting a “creeper” can happen anywhere. I’m just answering the question based on the setting that was specifically mentioned. Sometimes getting asked for coffee can be grand and flattering and all that, but sometimes when you get asked for coffee, you instantly pick up on vibes that the other person is giving off. Those vibes can be creepy and sometimes these things happen in comic book stores. They also happen in bookstores, grocery stores, video game stores or even just on the street.

      • Christian

        I was just stating that one should be careful in making out comic book readers to be creepy and by all means creepy vibes should be listened to and I was not trying to suggest otherwise.

      • Stephanie Cooke

        That’s fair! I just wanted to make it clear that I didn’t mean it like that at all. I’ve personally never had a bad experience at a comic shop, so there’s that! :)

      • Christian

        No worries. I have had a bad experience from geeks and nerds, at a convention. I took my sisters to the Anime Expo in LA and some girls were rather rude to my sisters since they are not geeks or nerds. I took them so they could experience something I find cool and was disappointed by the actions of my fellow geeks.

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